“I’m so bad at flirting.”
, by dominick silverio, 2 min reading time
Flirting might come more naturally to you than you think.
Flirting is less of a mathematical equation and more of an art form, a dance, or poetry. What works for one person might not work for another. The beauty of flirting is that the best kind is one you make your own—with your own brand of confidence, humor, and play.
Many articles will tell you the dos and don’ts of flirting, but often we focus on the mechanical techniques of flirting rather than the essence of it. But the fun thing about flirting is that it isn’t technical nor calculated. It’s just plain fun.
There’s no singular, “right” way to flirt
Contrary to what some articles or videos will tell you, there’s no special move or hack that will guarantee success.
When it comes to flirting, it’s best to take on a more personal approach, rather than treating it as a checklist. Figuring out how to do that can be tricky, but you just need to keep a few things in mind.
Be genuinely interested rather than trying to be interesting
Listen and try to be fully present in the conversation. There’s no need to find out their whole personal history, but paying attention and asking questions go a long way.
Be yourself
So cliche but so true. Being confident in yourself is part of the challenges of flirting. When you’re comfortable in your own skin, you’re able to be more authentic and open.
You won’t feel the need to put on airs, prove anything, or impress anyone. The less you try to do things, the easier it will be to let go and allow yourself to just be playful.
Be respectful
Respect boundaries. This goes without saying. Make sure the person you’re flirting with is actually comfortable with it– don’t push.
At the end of the day, flirting is about connecting with people and allowing yourself to be playful. There is a unique satisfaction that comes from flirting. Having someone’s full attention and being on the same rhythm– there’s nothing quite like it.